So you failed, you miss calculated, you under estimated, you miss judged it and you feel like it’s all gone wrong yet again, believe it or not it’s a good thing.
You see there is one major and I mean humongous difference between somebody who becomes successful and those that don’t, the ones who never become successful are the ones who don’t even bother to attempt anything too ambitious and those that try fail and give up.Anybody who has become successful with anything had to fail again and again and again before succeeding.
Last week I heard from a friend how the school for his child would get a smiley face sticker when they were good at school and completed lessons with little or no mistakes, however if it was a day of errors mistakes and bad judgements then a sad face sticker was the reward.
Just think about that for a moment, how crazy is it that a child is discouraged from making mistakes or getting things wrong. It is just as important for anybody learning any new skill to know what to do to get it right and what not to do to make sure it doesn’t go wrong. When we make mistakes and we learn from them we develop, studies have shown when we get something wrong a few times then get it right that our ability to get it right more times is much higher than if we had made no mistakes.
A few quotes to back me up here..
“Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.” ― Albert Einstein
“If people refuse to look at you in a new light and they can only see you for what you were, only see you for the mistakes you’ve made, if they don’t realize that you are not your mistakes, then they have to go.”
― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free
“Well, we all make mistakes, dear, so just put it behind you. We should regret our mistakes and learn from them, but never carry them forward into the future with us.”
― L.M. Montgomery, Anne of Avonlea
“The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.”
― Elbert Hubbard
“In school we learn that mistakes are bad, and we are punished for making them. Yet, if you look at the way humans are designed to learn, we learn by making mistakes. We learn to walk by falling down. If we never fell down, we would never walk.”
― Robert T. Kiyosaki, Rich Dad, Poor Dad
“Making mistakes simply means you are learning faster.”
― Weston H. Agor
So if you failed, if it went wrong, it’s not over yet, pick yourself up and give it another shot.
A great bit of advice I heard a few years ago from a friend
“if you’ve not got where you want in life yet then you need to fail faster and more often, get out there now and just do it, fail fail fail and fail some more”
I will finish with my favourite quote from Thomas Edison.
(On being asked how he felt about repeatedly failing to design a working light bulb)
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work”
Feel good about failing, it’s a good thing you see, just don’t feel sorry for yourself for too long, that’s the killer, learn to handle your disappointment, find out what you have learned from it and give it another go until you get it right.